Personality change

Norman is not the same anymore. Its still him, but the light from his eyes is not there anymore. Its almost gone! His character, his personality have change completely.His attention span can be measured in nanoseconds! He shouts and scream in frustration most of the time! Sob! I wonder if he understand us at all now. He does not comprehend time and place anymore but he can still recite the alphabets or count 1 to 30!He repeats whatever I said over and over again for hours!!
It's hard but I try my best to let him know I love him no matter what. When I hug him he could still put his good hand around to hug me too!
Will the lights come back? Will it at least brighten a bit? Can God give us a miracle? Please pray with us. By his stripes, we are healed. Amen.
Dorothy

Hospice role in allevating emotional stress

The unbelievable suffering this cancer is doing to Norman and my family is overwhelming. We did everything possible but still could not stop its aggressive attack. Nobody who have not experience this type of cancer can actually understand the mental and emotional torture he is going through.The exhaustion and mood swings along with the depression is just too much for Norman to bear.It breaks down his fighting spirit and he just give up!I was very glad when hospice arrange for a psychiatrist to evaluate Norman's metal status.
A major focus of hospice care is on the emotional effects of the illness on the patient and his family. Helping Norman to recognized that his fears, anger, frustration,etc are normal reaction to his illness would help us understand him better. The psychiatrist said that it is perfectly normal for him to lash out at me or the children during an emotional outburst.It will be good for him to be able to release his tension by shouting or even crying. In fact we should encourage him to cry aloud or even for me to cry together with him. I usually remain calm outwardly but my heart bleeds inside. Life is so cruel to him.